This year my theme for the #MyFriendAlexa campaign is “This or That”. Here, I’ll be putting up a day-to-day scenario that mostly all of us face sometime or the other, along with two different ways in which we can react towards those scenarios – either “This” or “That”. So, let’s look at today’s scenario!
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Sara is out with 6 of her other colleagues for a team lunch at a nearby restaurant. They are celebrating their recent success on a project. Everyone’s sharing their experience and clanking their glasses to toast everyone’s role in the assignment. The waiter comes over to serve the second round of starters. He bends over to serve Sara but he suddenly loses his balance, and the serving tongs go crashing in Sara’s lap, leaving a huge stain on the front of her crisp white shirt.
Let’s see the two possible reactions Sara could choose from:

THIS:
Sara sighs out loud with dramatic hand gestures, mouthing “oh gosh! couldn’t you see????? What’s wrong with you??” She continues in a furious tone, “Do you even know how much this shirt costs??? You lousy fellow! Stop staring at me and go get some towels now!” The poor waiter seems embarrassed and apologizes a 100 times and rushes to get Sara some napkins to clean up.
Sara stays in a grumpy temper as everyone keeps asking her at work about what happened to her shirt. The waiter was distracted at his job for the rest of the day as well.
THAT:
Sara exclaims, “Oh no! that was my new shirt”. She then notices the tensed waiter who has already uttered “Sorry ma’am” at least 10 times by then. She gets up and politely says, “It’s not a problem. Just be careful. Could you please get me a few tissues to clean up?” The waiter rushes to get her a few napkins.
The rest of the day, every time someone at work asks Sara about her shirt, she jokingly replies with, “oh! just a sign of a great lunch”. Hence laughing it off all day long.
The waiter too went on with his day at work being extra careful of his actions.

As obvious as the “right” choice sounds, it doesn’t always come naturally to all. But all that needs to be done is to just take a conscious pause and decide how you would want to react, rather than letting your subconscious react for you. Let me know which reaction do you usually end up choosing!
You may read other episodes here:
Episode 4: Out of Love or out of Fear?
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Very well put!
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Thank you 😊
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I would react as per the second condition. I know it is difficult but yes, we need not ruin some ones day as the reaction would go on and on.
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Exactly, Sweta😊 Glad to hear that!
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Such a nice post and how beautifully it explains how our choices and reactions affects us. We should take things in a positive way and positive actions can save us as well as others day too
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Absolutely Rakhi😊
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Very well said. It is actually our choice to make our day or break our day.
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Absolutely 😊
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I’m always on the latter reaction. But like you said, it’s not always an easy choice!!
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It’s definitely not easy dear. But I’m glad to hear your reaction 😊
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Well well, now this is a pretty common could-happen-to-anyone scene.
The difference would be the way we react. The 1st one is the easiest way out of it but would leave a nad taste in everyone’s mouth. The 2nd is difficult, needs a calm mind but definitely a better come back.
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Words can either make or break the day. A short and inspiring post on human behavior.
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Thanks for reading 😊😊
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This was such an interesting read. Life often throws options at us and I really feel the correct option always has its way to charm us. Really liked reading this.
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Thank you for reading Preetjyot 😊
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Loved the way of presenting beautiful message 👍. True, sometimes we react so bad, which makes us feel ashamed during introspection
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Thank you for such kind words 😊
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Wonderful post, Nitisha! We can only control our reactions, and not others’ action.
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Indeed Tina. Thanks for reading 😊
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Love your these, Nitasha. I used to be the 1st Sara. Wisdom and maturity have now made me mould myself into the 2nd one. I like this change.
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Thanks Mayuri! Glad to hear that 😊
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Loved reading this post. Haste decisions and reactions do not good. It’s best to post, reflect and then react
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Absolutely! Thanks for reading 😊
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theme
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I like the theme and your take on it, quite unique
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Thanks for reading Pooja😊
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Beautifully penned , usually people loose temper and behave rudely but Winners are those who can stay calm 🙂
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That’s indeed true😊
Thanks for reading!
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Such a lovely concept and explained beautifully! The choices of actions we make, actually end up defining our character and make us either winners or losers.
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Absolutely Jyoti! Only we are responsible in defining ourselves😊
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Honestly I’ve been in the this and that place! But a few years ago, consciously chose the that way! #myepicareads
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I’m so happy to know that Pratibha😊
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I believe its all about how calm can one remain under these circumstances. Easier said than done but still definitely worth giving a try. I like your theme. Pretty interesting. And great way to explain the scenarios. Keep the good work going.
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I agree Manas, it’s very difficult to achieve and maintain mental calm. However, if we’re really willing to achieve something, I don’t think there’s anyone who can stop us.
Thanks for your kind words 😊
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Such a nice blog. Very well captured how our reactions can make all the difference.
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Thanks Afreen😊
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We often come across such situations in our lives! That was an interesting read
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Thanks a lot Jhilmil😊
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It’s about the glass is half full or half empty.. thanks for reminding once again.
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Thank for reading Payel😊
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Wow, I like this series. So many situations can be either this or that!
I liked the ending you gave and also the choice. It’s difficult to laugh off but if you can do that, your life will get better.
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Thanks for reading Lancelot😊 I’m glad my point reached across to you.
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Wow, just a simple change of attitude and what follows is a day saved from anger and misery. If we take a moment to choose the right words the world would be a much better place.
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Exactly what I’m trying to convey, Varsh😊 Thanks for reading.
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I loved your post. What a positive take on an issue, when taken negatively, would have ended up as a bad day for the waiter as well as for her. I wish everyone thought like this. And your theme-This or That is awesome
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Thank you Harjeet. Glad you hear your thoughts 😊
I hope my posts reach atleast a few and remind them of a better way of life.
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Interesting. I try telling myself not to let a stain spoil the day. I try.
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Trying is half job done Sonia! All the best for the remaining half😊
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I liked your theme – This or that.
yes, we always have two choices and we need to be careful about what we choose.
The rest or afterward is decided on how we reacted in that particular situation.
Certainly, don’t let the stain ruin your day says it all.
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Exactly Pragun! Glad to know your thoughts 😊
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Really love the theme you chose for Alexa…will catch up on the other posts too! This was an interesting post…how our choice of words can make a difference. Well, it is easier said than done as you have written!
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Thank you for such kind words Ninu😊
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I love your theme for the Alexa campaign. Although the latter would be the best choice, it does not come naturally to all. Looking forward to reading more from you.
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That’s true Madhu. But I guess we can all work a little towards a better and peaceful state of mind 😊
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This or that!! We are often faced with decisions to choose. Inwouod gonwith the second option from your post.
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Glad to hear that 😊
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Wow! that’s quite a lovely theme, while its gets so natural to behave the first way, but it is important we choose to think a little and behave the right way for own and others piece of mind and definitely a stain wont ruin your day.
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Absolutely Gunjan. Nothing else matters when compared to our peace of mind😊
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Yes, that right choice doesn’t come to all naturally because you need to practice it. If you practice then it will become a habit and then you will smile and say ‘it’s okay’.
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Absolutely Paresh! Thanks for reading 😊
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So true ! A right choice of words makes or mars someone’s day. Loved your post.
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Absolutely! Thank you Ruchi😊
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Enjoyed reading your article and paused for a while before final decision. Option ‘THAT’ will not spoil the day for both but requires courage and humanity angle.
Waiting for next post**
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Absolutely. Courage and patience are all we need to bring a change😊
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This or That – A nice theme and possible ways someone could react to a situation. This or That – which is right or wrong, what comes out when something happens gives a lot of possibilities…
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Indeed 😊 Thanks for reading.
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I would like to go with ‘that’ option and I hope I will not respond instantly and scold as she did. But I would definitely buy a new shirt or change into something else instead of wearing that stained white shirt and giving food for thought to others.
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Glad to hear your reaction Geethica.
If one has a spare shirt or if they can buy one, that’s great! However, if one cannot, then they shouldn’t concentrate all their energy on that one stain and ruin the entire day😊
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Short, sweet and yet a wonderful message dear.
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Thank you Sivaranjini😊
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Very well written.. its definitely our choice to make or break the day… Love reading the post
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Thanks for such kind words Yogita 😊
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I would definitely choose number two and let it pass off as a mistake. I would then rush to the bathroom to wash off the stains and blow-dry the shirt.
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I’m glad to hear that, Dipali 😊 Thanks for reading.
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Nice post actually. Not sure, which one would I choose to go with, but right now what I feel I should go with the second one. Accident happens and it’s never intentional.
Thanks for sharing this.
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Thanks, Shamik😊
Hope you choose the same option in real life too.
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A deed of kindness goes a long way! I loved your theme. It’s just heartwarming.
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Loved the way you have contextualised an issue and painted the two scenarios for us. Interesting read. I visited your blog for the first time, thanks to MFA, must say that your content is very interesting. Keep writing :).
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Loved it!!
I also truly believe that if you don’t let the circumstances affect your reactions, you can be in full control of your life!!
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Exactly Neelesh. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😊
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I liked the way you have covered this !!
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